A day at a time

One of the side-effects of the recent episode in the history of humanity has been an acceptance of living life one day at a time. Given we ceded our autonomy to a higher authority which has controlled our every movement (or lack of) and so much more, there has been little choice. While stressful for … More A day at a time

The wind of change

The world has been reduced to a new type of ‘ground zero’ and this brings uncertainty in almost everything, with one exception – a growing awareness that life will never be the same again. In our confinement, whilst we are adjusting to the curtailment of our civil liberties and the conflict with democracy this brings, … More The wind of change

Compassion in action

It’s extremely heartening to witness the ever increasing number of initiatives at grass roots level around the globe which demonstrate compassion in action. So many people are volunteering to help those who are self-isolated, the elderly, the vulnerable and the lonely. A palpable sense of community is emerging in communities where many didn’t even know … More Compassion in action

A moment in time

First of all, I am not going to refer to ‘it’ by it’s name as that feels like energising it, making it more powerful, giving it too much respect. I will call it ‘Big V’. Also, I am not going to add to what’s already been said, as that’s getting repetitive and, finally, I am … More A moment in time

Who am I?

I have recently been reviewing some note books from the 1990s which are packed full of insights, affirmations, mantras and wisdom I used to help me deal with the many challenges I faced during this fast moving period of my life, when I was immersed in business in London and sport, as well as trying … More Who am I?

The end?

The end of a decade is always significant and, invariably, a time of renewed optimism as a new decade dawns. But this time, it is different. Everywhere you look there’s chaos – politically, economically, socially, environmentally and every which way. One scandal follows another in the media exposing the dark side of life more than … More The end?

We are not alone..

Recent events have reinforced, for me, the power of connection when we are separated from people we love. We truly are never alone nor separated by more than the distance we imagine and when someone needs us, we can extend our consciousness, our balance and our love to them as if they are right next … More We are not alone..

Mentoring – ditching underachievement and creating a more abundant life (podcast)

Nicki had reached her 50th birthday which prompted her to review her life, so far. She told me that ‘on the whole she was content with things but felt she had been an underachiever’. This audio is an extract from the mentoring session I did with Nicki and focuses on how to create a different … More Mentoring – ditching underachievement and creating a more abundant life (podcast)

Dowsing with a pendulum – the ultimate ‘smart’ device (podcast)

Dowsing with a pendulum has been an amazing tool in my life for over 30 years. Basically, it’s my ‘instinct’ on the end of a piece of string, with the massive advantage that I can actually see it! Given that instinct is the best guidance mechanism we have in life (the subject of another podcast), … More Dowsing with a pendulum – the ultimate ‘smart’ device (podcast)

Timing is everything

Whilst enjoying my daily indulgence of coffee and cake in the garden today, I pondered the glorious scene before me. I live in the middle of nowhere with breathtaking beauty all around and, today, nothing could be heard except the tweeting of birds and bleating of newborn lambs. The countryside isn’t always that quiet! Yet … More Timing is everything

Mirror, mirror?

What do you see when you look in the mirror? This is a question I have asked myself for some time. For most of my life, I just saw a face – first thing in the morning looking sleep deprived due to overwork, in business mode with make-up on looking surprisingly glam’, a bit on … More Mirror, mirror?

Let there be light!

Christmas is a non-event for me. Partly because I live on my own in the middle of nowhere but also because it really has ‘lost the plot’ and become a season of extreme commercialisation and over-indulgence. I admit, I like to have lunch with family or friends if that’s logistically possible, which it was this … More Let there be light!

Inconsolable

Yesterday was a very sad day and a lot of tears were shed over poor Lomax. The vet was coming to put the old horse, Sovereign, to sleep. He had been on loan as a companion for Talisman for the last few months but at 36 (which is an exceptional age for a horse) he … More Inconsolable

Silencing fear

A friend experienced neighbour difficulties recently. She was being harassed and it had got to the point where she didn’t want to leave the house, felt physically sick when she saw the neighbours and was contemplating selling. This resonated with me as I have encountered neighbour stress in the past on several occasions and it’s … More Silencing fear

Our true human nature

I gawped in amazement at yet another stunning sunset and was filled with wonderment at how every sunset is unique and exquisite. One of the only advantages of the short winter days is that I am outside feeding the animals at sundown and able to enjoy the natural ‘wall to wall art’ which is omnipresent … More Our true human nature

No grand plan

In all the years I filmed for Horse Hero (the equestrian video website which was my business until last year) the most talked about aspect of dressage training (apart from the ‘scale of training’) was without a doubt the ‘half halt’, progressing to ‘forwards and back’ later on, especially as a tool for the advanced … More No grand plan

Only I can fix me

The lovely Rose, Talisman’s sixth companion since last October, has been given her marching orders. So the comic opera continues! Rose was as good as gold for the first few weeks, so much so, that I even bought her some rugs on the basis I had found ‘the one’. There were some issues I was … More Only I can fix me

The poetry factor

Glorious sunshine continued for several weeks, so much so that I came to expect it to be the first thing to greet me each morning. I even started fantasising about what it would be like to live in a warmer climate where sunny weather is the norm. Sadly, it’s now back to a mix of … More The poetry factor

Conflicted!

I can live happy at both ends of the spectrum. Expansive, extrovert and in the centre of civilisation was how I lived during the first 20 years of my career. Building a business in London took that and more. It was full on, day and night and the never ending challenges provided never ending learning … More Conflicted!

Counting my blessings

‘Walking your talk’ is one of the hardest things in life. Talking is the easy bit – thinking, living and being ‘it’ on a consistent basis is much more difficult (perhaps the subject of another ‘spiritual musing’ video). So when a large number of extremely irritating small issues recently threatened my equilibrium (wrecked it, to … More Counting my blessings

Serendipity

It feels more like spring now, the daffs are out, the lambs are bleating and the temperature has risen. However, following rain of biblical proportions which arrived after an epic melting of the epic snow, the ground is saturated which means grass turnout for the boys has been limited. I am expecting things to change … More Serendipity

A wounded soul

The seriously BIG snow finally went, followed by relentless rain. The ground turned into a bog – a combination of melting snow and rain, and spring made another brief appearance. My heart then sank as yet another heavy snowfall arrived with arctic winds and more big drifts. It was ‘Groundhog Day’ with a repeat of … More A wounded soul

Concluding euphoria

Things deteriorated. The wind swirled relentlessly day and night and heavy snow continued to fall, whipping itself into drifts of 10 to 15 feet in some areas. Bizarrely, other areas had almost no snow at all. It was surreal.   The drive looked like a frozen sea with huge waves coming over the hedge and … More Concluding euphoria

What a palava!

It’s been another challenging few weeks of ups and downs, frustrations and the odd triumph. The relentless bad weather continued with more bouts of snow and acute cold, followed by rain of biblical proportions turning the ground into a bog! My photographer friend learned how to use the fairly sophisticated video camera I have (which … More What a palava!

Technology sucks

I was reduced to tears of frustration yesterday with yet another challenge of living remotely – failed internet. The trauma of having no internet for several days (and therefore no phone or mobile connection either) was bad enough but the exasperation of dealing with an utterly dysfunctional internet provider makes this pale into insignificance. Hours … More Technology sucks

Foreign correspondent

The weather continues to define daily life! Basically, it’s been rubbish – either unbearably cold, torrential rain, sleet, snow, ice or gales or a combination of all of these at any one time. Riding has happened where and when it has been safe(-ish) to do so! There were a few dry days in the middle … More Foreign correspondent

Metamorphosis

Here are a few lines reflecting on my own metamorphosis (especially since moving to the wilds of Wales) – I wrote it as a poem to usher in 2018: Only one thing is certain And that is – life will change. Ups, downs and challenges Will bring the full range.   It’s never easy, We … More Metamorphosis

No more Mr Nice Guy!

New Year in this part of Wales is currently being ushered in with more ridiculous weather! Arctic gales and horizontal rain have persisted all day, progressively getting worse and our third bout of snow in so many weeks came and went last night. Not a snowflake was in evidence at 10pm when I tucked the … More No more Mr Nice Guy!

The big thaw

Finally, the elements have swung the other way. It’s now pouring with rain and the temperature has risen to just above zero, so the snow is receding and there is evidence of life beneath! However, this brings another set of challenges. If it freezes tonight, the ground will be utterly treacherous and once the snow … More The big thaw

The path to freedom

It’s finally stopped snowing, the gale has ceased and the sun is shining making the snow sparkle brilliantly. I can breathe again. Better still, I have dug a ‘path to freedom’ for the horses. My original plan was to get the small tractor out and create a set of tram lines down the yard and … More The path to freedom

Digging deep

I am officially snowed in and the animals and I are reduced to ‘survival’ mode. Yesterday while the snow increased I was, at least, able to dig pathways and get the horses into the turnout arena for most of the day, though the walker was out of bounds. Today, nothing is do-able. I have never … More Digging deep

Secret lives

Today we have serious snow which makes life challenging with the horses and out on the yard and it is changing minute by minute from brilliant sunshine to whiteouts. How extraordinary, beautiful (and cruel) is nature?! Late last night before the white stuff arrived though, while it was blowing a gale and painfully cold another, … More Secret lives

No more surprises

The search for a suitable companion for Talisman continued and in the end, helped by fellow equestrians, I went to see a few local candidates and chose a lovely little Welsh Section A x B mare called Pip who’s 8 years old, in rude good health and very cute! She hasn’t been handled much, though … More No more surprises

No longer a virgin!

While more Welsh weather sets in and a gale blows outside, the painting continues inside. It’s been a steep learning curve as I was a ‘decorating virgin’ when I came to the property but I am discovering the best techniques to apply different paints to a variety of surfaces on-the-hoof, so to speak! I have … More No longer a virgin!

Transformations

Summer has evaporated following several weeks of never-ending rain. The ground is soggy, the horses are shedding their summer coats and sprouting fluffy winter ones and the long summer evenings have been replaced by dark wintry nights. I have been amazed by how quickly the seasons have changed this year but ‘one mustn’t grumble’ as … More Transformations

Crunch time

Was it the fact my head was still in ‘building works’ mode and I was exhausted from the constant noise, mess and relentless cleaning, so I wasn’t my normal mentally alert and physically sharp self? Things should have been finished the previous weekend but ended up spilling over into ‘planning and packing’ purdah just before … More Crunch time

Thrilling

Yesterday, it poured relentlessly after weeks of uncharacteristic continuous sunshine, so it was a question of picking the least bad time to ride. There wasn’t one and I ended up getting soaked right down to my hand-made New Zealand riding knickers (appropriately named Fanny Adams) and Talisman looked like a drowned rat! He has been … More Thrilling

Oh mother!

‘A change is as good as a rest!’ Well, there certainly hasn’t been any of the latter since returning from the competition, though I am having a week off training which does feel like a let-up, while Talisman has 10 days as a field ornament before coming back into work to prepare for his third … More Oh mother!

Devastated

How resilient is the human spirit……..The couple of weeks preceding the trip to Norfolk to compete in the 120K 2* were flat out. This is nothing new. On most days, my bottom only touches a seat when I am eating! So as I was trying to get fields topped to beat the unstoppable grass for … More Devastated

Divine intervention

I am constantly surprised by the kindness of strangers who are prepared to help me in my moment of need…. The last few weeks have been up and down and just a little on the challenging side! Some of you will know that I had been trying to find a ‘good home’ for Horse Hero, … More Divine intervention

Fit for purpose

My life has been (and continues to be) one of perpetual motion which isn’t a bad thing from a fitness point of view, although it has other drawbacks! Since my teen years, sport has featured strongly. Initially, the usual things like school hockey and tennis (I also had a pony from the age of 11) … More Fit for purpose

Utterly exhilarating

It’s the journey that defines you….. It was full-on today and thank goodness the clocks changed back to summer time, as I needed every last drop of daylight. Half the day consisted of outside jobs (I can’t take credit for doing all of them myself). They included a first cut of the lawn, first strim … More Utterly exhilarating

Timing is everything

Is patience another word for timing…….. I don’t know if it’s just me, or human nature but I don’t like transitions. I am an ‘all or nothing’ person. If I decide to make an important change in my life, I would rather change completely, ie. end one thing and start another! But life isn’t like … More Timing is everything

Carnage

The merits of a backup plan…. I am sitting in the eye of the storm typing. I have no power, therefore no phone, lights or water (as the borehole pump is out). There is a sink full of washing up which I can’t do and I can’t take a shower either – lovely, if you … More Carnage

Kindred spirits

“The basic necessities of life are the most important things”… In researching whether attracting birds of prey to my land might act as a deterrent to pheasants (sadly they won’t), I came across ‘the bird man’. Mike volunteers for a nature charity in the area and one way and another, I ended up having 10 … More Kindred spirits

A cunning plan

“You really have to value the people who are prepared to get ‘down and dirty’ with you”…. The winter turnout field is well and truly wrecked. That’s the whole idea but, even so, there came a point when I decided I would have to move the horses and improvise. My land is on a hill … More A cunning plan

Who found who?

It was love at first sight! Just like falling in love with a man or a horse, something you can’t explain!… I live in an ancient farmstead. The yard features some very old farm buildings (now having a new lease of life providing for all my horsey needs). It includes an old fashioned milking parlour, … More Who found who?